When life is blurred to the point that it’s unrecognizable, how does one adjust its setting?

Several times in my life I have found myself standing at a place where I don’t recognize anything. I am lost. Though there are direction signs there but I can’t trust them. I am looking around, trying desperately to spot something I know but I fail to find anything. I keep looking, hoping I will find something that’ll sooth me. However, as with a treasure hunt only one person finds it, there are times when I am not that person. 

The feeling is similar to when you are watching TV (especially in old times) and the channel suddenly blurs. You have to adjust the settings and at times even adjust the antennae or call the cable company to fix the problem. But with life, in most cases, setting doesn’t exist you have to adjust yourself or wait for the time/phase and at times the entire life to pass. 

You get desperate. You want change. But it doesn’t happen. You fight, you struggle, you even pray  (which I think is the most desperate thing to do because it means you have given up and you are relying on some power whose existence depends on whether your requests are answered on not).  What can you do?

The answer to all the above questions lies in you only. I know am not telling you rocket science. But I have seen that the more you trust yourself, more you have belief less likely it is that you will be lost. Or even if you are lost you will be able to find your way back sooner than later.

Only Green and Red Matters!!

This blog entry might be a little absurd for some. Some might not relate to it altogether. Others will just discount it as some random piece of nothingness. However, I hope this will make you wonder; think and even realize certain things about our lives.

This article is about the importance Internet plays in our lives today. I think it’s fair to say that it is the most important non-living thing in our lives. In most cases our lives, livelihood is dependent on it either directly or indirectly. However, have you ever wondered that in most cases it is even becoming more important than the living beings?

Now this article might be ahead of its time but where internet is involved the news is old before it is published. So without wasting any more time I will jump into what I feel.

The other day I was chatting to a friend and we were discussing how FB/twitter is the new personal dairy on public display. The status messages range from “I am single again” to “I lost my dog” to “Congratulations so & so for completing donkey years in marriage”. In one instance a person had put up “I am in a bad mood today……my mom screamed at me for no reason”. I don’t want to get into other descriptive messages because some of the status messages are so specific that they the person concerned would know. And I can’t take that risk at a public forum.

Anyway the point I am trying to convey here is WHERE IS THE PRIVACY?? Good to know that you are single again but I don’t give a damn? I hope you understand my point. Now you must be wondering if I am not bothered then I should just ignore it. Yes I have tried doing that but it’s tough to ignore instances in a span of a couple of days the messages have moved from “Saddest day of my life” to the “Best day of my life”. Even if someone lost a loved one, why use FB as your emotional vent? Yes your friends are on it and it’s the easiest way to let them know that you are in trouble so that they can come and stand by you. But with all due respect people who you really want by your side at that moment will not wait for your FB status update.

This brings me to another important point that I feel internet is responsible for or should I say our dependence on it. Internet is governing us so much that it is actually altering the way we live and think. Because we spend a lot of time on it and it is our time. It makes us more self centered. Slowly we start realizing we do not need people as we can chat with them. You do not need physical presence of anyone as long as that person has a chat name. Yes you expect something from that chat name but it’s not like if that name is not green or red you will die. You will chat to some other name that is green/red.

Questions that I feel we need to consider or at least I wonder about:

Is this is making us move away from each other? And actually back firing on the basic purpose of bringing us closer? Since I do not interact at a physical level with you I do not care if you are there. I will miss you online. But I will find someone else soon enough.

Is this similar to our lives where people come and go but now they keep coming and going at a very fast pace. I am not bothered who is there as long as someone is there?

Is it helping us to move on with our lives much quicker?

Ultimately, is it good or bad?

I know all these questions will not have a black or white answer. But I can’t live with grey all the time. Or better still let me look for some green/red and forget about all this.

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